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Shots In The Dark
Wednesday, January 17, 2024
  Love, Harvard-Style
Did any of you happen to read the Wedding of the Week in the Times Style section on Sunday? It highlighted the vows of two Harvard grads, Rebecca Whitney and David Mandel, class of '92, I think.

They started dating at Harvard....but only after Whitney dated Mandel's roommate first.

“I was sad and shy and not exactly sure what one is supposed to do,” Mr. Mandel, also 36, said. Over their first summer break he sent her newsletters and mix tapes. But she didn’t get the message.

During winter break in their sophomore year he invited her to a New Year’s Eve party at his parents’ apartment in New York, which he gave solely to see her. As she left the party, he handed her a puzzling gift. “It was the screenplay of ‘The War of the Roses,’ inscribed ‘To my own Barbara Rose, who can hit me without hurting me and hurt me without hitting me,’ ” she recalled.

Smooth move, David!

Eventually, Mandel confessed his love.

As Dr. Whitney remembered it, “Dave said we either had to marry each other or never speak again.” She panicked, telling him she preferred to take things slow and stay friends.

Ah...the impulsive, all-or-nothing ultimatum, followed by the inevitable panic...a classic story.

He gave her the silent treatment, for the next four years.

Well, of course. What else would one do?

In New York after graduation, they bumped into each other at Gray's Papaya on 72nd and Broadway, which recently raised its prices. Pretty soon, they had a fight over what had happened in college. Mandel finally did the smart thing: he kissed her.

It was their first kiss, and, Dr. Whitney said, “it meant everything.”

The next day he left for California
.

Oh, ambition! Mandel had been hired to write for Seinfeld.

They began a long-distance relationship, but soon he was working around the clock. Within a year they had broken it off.

So Mandel did what all somewhat immature ex-boyfriends do: He humiliated Whitney by writing an episode of Seinfeld about her. A very funny episode of Seinfeld, you will recall, in which Jerry starts dating a woman with "man-hands."

Whitney...winces when he mentions it.....

(It's not online, but the print edition of the paper—sneaky!—runs a close-up of Whitney's left hand. It lives up to advance billing. On the other hand, that's a big rock!)

Nonetheless, while at med school at Tulane, Whitney found that she missed Mandel, despite the fact that he had some issues.

He lives in a dark Los Angeles apartment with blackout shades covering all of the windows to protect his collection of comic books, toy robots and “Star Wars” stormtrooper helmets.

The course of true love—it's not smooth!

“If I could have found any way to live happily without him, I would have done it,” she said.

In some ways, one thinks that she should have tried just a bit harder.

When Whitney moved to LA to do her residency, they got back together (again!) and, after a series of fights—love not smooth, etc.—they got married. To their credit, the band played the Beach Boys' "God Only Knows," which is an excellent choice. (The greatest pop song ever written? I leave that to you to decide.)

These two are either going to divorce in a year or have one of the great marriages in the history of the Sunday Styles section. I hope it's the latter. Congratulations, Rebecca and David!
 
Comments:
There's another Harvard alum lovefest in the news (and courts) these days. Writes a well-known media blog:

"[M]eet the Harvard family of party promoter Jennifer Rubell and Daniel Kim, plus daughter Stevie, named for Jennifer's late uncle Steve Rubell (the lord of Studio 54). Check the glow in the couple's profile in Harvard alumni slobbermag 02138:

"Rubell, lithe, with wavy dark hair and a wide smile, has an appealingly resonant voice and is equally comfortable discussing a Francis Alÿs video work and a recipe for naeng myun, Korean cold noodles. Rubell's Korean food impresses even the Korean parents of Daniel Kim, Rubell's boyfriend and the father of her nine-month-old daughter, Stevie ...

"How things change.

"From the Post:
In papers filed in Manhattan Supreme Court, Rubell, the author of "Real Life Entertaining," says her live-in love Daniel Kim turned lay-about lout after the birth of their baby daughter, and has been ignoring her pleas to leave her sprawling East Side brownstone and get a job, "preferring to stay in my home and taunt me."

"The filing says Kim has become "verbally abusive" and "repeatedly pressured me to allow him to film and photograph me while we were having sex or . . . in various compromising positions. Daniel's obsession with this bordered on psychotic and he never relented in pressuring me to accede to his deviant fantasies."
Rubell says her fellow Harvard alum "is creating a hostile, tension-filled environment," and is using "psychological warfare against me," including leaving the room whenever she tries to talk to him, "preferring to communicate with me solely by e-mail," her suit says.

"He also recently installed a surveillance camera in my home and has left me a written threat" - a note on top of a mysterious lockbox reading, "You have been warned." ... Meanwhile, Kim, who has his own apartment in Brooklyn, just hangs out in the five-story home on Lexington Avenue near East 29th Street smoking pot.

"Mysterious lockbox! Maybe he's just a little paranoid about Rubell raiding his stash."

Ouch!
 
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