Four Questions About Sex
I have a journalist friend who writes about sex professionally, and once in a while she calls me to get a male perspective on things.
Not, I hasten to assure you, because I am any expert on these matters, but because I'm about the only single (heterosexual) 41-year-old guy in New York, so that's a different take. I'm old enough to have some perspective, and single enough to be able to share it.
My friend called last night because she's been asked to write a story for a woman's magazine about, surprise, women and sex.
The article she's writing is about four sexual questions, she explained, from a woman's perspective. They are:
1) When a new position isn't going quite right, is there a tactful way to move into the old faithful me-on-top without ruining the mood?2) Physically, being on top during sex is most satisfying, but I’m really shy about my body being on display. How can I learn to let go and enjoy it? 3) Is there a mental exercise I can use to get in the mood s.t.a.t. when I’m not and he is? 4) How can I make sex with a new partner less awkward? I ended a long-term relationship last year and haven’t had sex since because I’m so nervous.
Women's magazines make me laugh, they really do.
My answer to question #1 was, "Get drunk and turn off the lights." That was also my answer to #'s 2-4.
This may help explain my unmarried status. On the other hand, if you have better answers, feel free to post them. This is pretty
earth-shaking stuff.
In all seriousness, as I thought about these silly questions, I really did think of only one answer: Why not just sleep with people you know well, care about, and trust?
Yikes. Somewhere along the way, I became old-fashioned....
